Showing posts with label jobs. Show all posts
Showing posts with label jobs. Show all posts

1.15.2013

IS LANDING A JOB HARDER WHEN YOU'RE ENGAGED?


so, i'm back in super-job-search mode. it's a downer because i really, really love my job here. but, to seattle we go and i'm ready to work.

obviously, it takes quite a few steps before you get a job interview, but as i mentally prepared to enter that world of apply, hear nothing, lose hope, get a callback, sweat with nerves, go in for the interview, etc., i recalled an article i read a while back: "should women wear engagement rings to interviews?" i think it was published in one of my fav mags. of course, at the time, it didn't matter to me. i wasn't engaged, and i landed my job now mere days before b popped the question.

the authors argument is that women with engagement rings may seem like they'll leave the job after they get married or when they have babies. worse yet, some speculate that if you rock a large... rock... that interviewers may think you have plenty of money and don't NEED a job. yikes. not that i think my ring is giant, but it is beautiful and larger than the average. {and for what it's worth, we totally need me to work! if not only because i would be bored out of my mind... but also because, hello, i pay half the bills.}

my main problem is that in seattle, not only will i be wearing an engagement ring, but b is a huge part of my story. "what brings you to seattle?" will no doubt come up. i am not one to combine the personal and professional {especially in the interview phase!}, so that makes me really uncomfortable. but, what are my options? don't wear a ring? lie about why i moved to seattle? there is no way that i'm starting out a relationship with a new company by presenting a false me.

ladies on a popular wedding board voted overwhelmingly that they'd wear their ring. and, i guess that's what i'll do. because, in the end, my ring - my relationship with b - is a key component of my life. plus, i think they might catch on when i change my name to katelyn baker in a few months.

2.15.2012

people will surprise you, or what you learn when you move across the country wilth no prospects.

{the sun setting somewhere in kansas.}

moving to denver has been a lot of things. shocking, for people who know me as little miss planner. a leap of faith, definitely. and eye opening, most of all.

i have never been unemployed. i have worked since i was 16 years old and i had one day between college graduation and starting my first real job. so, to come out here without any prospects of employment was definitely a risk. and it has been very hard. i easily could do a post on how lonely it is to have no close friends out here, how frustrating it is to spend 14 hours a day on the computer looking for jobs or how sad it was when people looked me in the face and told me that it was a huge mistake to move to denver. i could talk about all of that.

but, that has not been the most common response.

people have come out of the woodwork to help me. my professor michelle opened her rolodex to me and introduced me to 10+ amazing people. those amazing people have given me advice, offered me guidance and nudged me in the right direction. former supervisors i haven't seen in years have contacted me to say they'd be a reference. a friend from nashville welcomed us into her home and took us into the mountains this past weekend.

it's hard to blog about life as it unfolds. it's easier to look back and say "here was this experience and here is its perfect ending". it's nerve wracking and messy to write about things before you know the happily ever after. so, while i'm still unemployed, don't have a denver bff and am not sure how things will all fall into place, i know they will.

because people surprise you in the best ways.

and life has a way of working itself out.